Even when it rains make the sun shine by RATON (c)

It is always easy to blame other things for why we don't feel how we want to feel . Oh , it was too cold , it was too hot , it was this or that. You know what , that shouldn't really matter and we have to realize, even though extreme surroundings might interfere with our mood, that we are the ones that are in control of each and every moment . We have the power to make the next hour a good one or a bad one .

So try not to get caught up with old memories or associate with what you had experienced in the past.  RATON always caught himself getting down when it rained on the weekend , because it reminded him of those lonely days back home when he was a child . He couldn't help it , it was embedded in him and he always got melancholic when it rained on the weekend, especially on Sundays.

Now , instead of associating lonely Sundays with the rain , he tried to turn it into something more pleasant . For example , instead of standing with a long sad face by the window , RATON grabbed all his favorite food snacks , displayed them nicely on a plate , grabbed his favorite book or took his iPad and crawled back into bed thinking how lucky he was that he had this extra time to read and write , to snack on his favorite foods and to embrace this time alone . It was not lonely time, it was time by himself with himself which is  a different approach.

This different angle , a different approach of thinking helped him to feel much better about rainy Sunday afternoons. When he was done with his Time by himself, he bundled up to go outside and tried to just enjoy the scent , the  smell of the rain , how fresh and cleansing it really was . If he really got rained on and ended up soaked and wet , RATON thought of how great it would feel to get dry again . It sounds all very vanilla and it is not always that easy, but you know what, try to find a way to make it better . Even thou you might not want to take that yoga class or go to the gym , or meet a friend for coffee. Do it , push yourself because most of the time when you actually get out there, afterwards you come home with a really great experience and you realize all you have to do is to show up .

Better results come all with the approach  and yes, there is nothing more  annoying then being Mr or Mrs positive all the time, but if it makes your life even a tiny bit better , try it . You will become a better more happy person because of it . Every little experience counts to flush out the bad memories . Just try it, next time the sadness bubbles up , nipp it in the butt and do something you think you would actually enjoy , alone or with friends. You will see how quickly your mood is going to change , and if you feel you just want to crawl back into bed, there is nothing wrong with that either . Because nothing is right or wrong when it comes to your time, how you spent it and what you want to do with it . It's really as simple as that and it is a given , somthing that is not even up for discussion , just remind yourself how good you can really have it by not falling back into old patterns or memories. Memories are from the past and they can make you sad very easy . Try to stay in the now and you will like everything around you much better.  

“Closed in a room, my imagination becomes the universe, and the rest of the world is missing out.”
― Criss Jami